Data from 226 real chats · last 12 months · updated October 2026
Texting Statistics: How Crushes Really Text
Reply times, who texts more, message length, emoji and the hours people text their crush, from 1,124,000+ messages in anonymised chats uploaded to Crush Analyzer.
Key findings
21 min
typical reply time of a crush
The person being asked about replies in 21 min on average (median across chats); the person with the crush replies in 18 min.
55%
of crushes reply slower than you
In 55% of chats the crush takes longer to answer on average than the person with the crush. A slow reply alone is not a bad sign.
56%
of people with a crush send more messages
The typical split is 51/49: chats are more balanced than most people fear.
22.4%
of messages are sent 10 pm–2 am
Texting peaks around 10 pm and is quietest around 5 am.
24 chars
typical crush message length
People with a crush write 28 characters per message on average; only 34% of crushes write longer messages than them.
98%
of chats use emoji
About 13 emoji per 100 messages. The most used one is 😭.
26 days
typical longest silence
81% of crush chats go a week or more without a single message at some point, and keep going afterwards.
20%
of crush chats fade by half
Only 20% of chats send less than half as many messages in their last month as in their first. The typical chat is 55% busier at the end.
You vs your crush
Medians across all chats: half of the chats are above the number, half below.
Average reply time
18 min
person with the crush
21 min
the crush
replies within 24 hours
Message length
28
person with the crush
24
the crush
characters per message
Emoji per 100 messages
12
person with the crush
13
the crush
emoji per 100 messages
When do people text their crush?
Share of all messages by hour of day (sender's local time). Activity climbs through the evening and peaks around 10 pm; 22.4% of messages are sent between 10 pm and 2 am. Crushes send 21.4% of their messages in those hours, people with a crush 20.8%; the crush is the bigger night owl in 50% of chats.
Busiest days of the week
Thursday is the busiest texting day and Tuesday the quietest, but the week is fairly even.
Silences, streaks and fading chats
From 165 chats that ran for at least a month. Silence = days in a row with no message from either side.
26 days
typical longest silence
81% of chats have a week+ gap
12 days
typical longest daily streak
texting every single day in a row
20%
of chats fade by half
last month vs first month (136 chats of 60+ days)
Does the crush like them back? What the AI says
Every full report ends with an AI estimate of the chance the crush likes the person back. Across 58 full reports, the median estimate is 25% and the AI said "yes" in 29% of chats. An AI read of texting patterns, for reflection only.
Share of reports by estimated chance.
Most used emojis in crush chats
Share among the ten most used emojis (each one appears in at least 5 different chats).
#1
41.7%
#2
22.9%
#3
8.3%
#4
5.2%
#5
4.3%
#6
4.2%
#7
3.9%
#8
3.6%
#9
3.1%
#10
2.8%
How does your chat compare?
Upload your chat to see your own reply times, message balance and emoji next to these averages, plus an AI read of whether they like you back.
📤 Analyze my chat (free preview)Method
Numbers come from 226 different one-to-one chats uploaded to Crush Analyzer for analysis, about 1,124,000+ messages in total. The typical chat has 1,719 messages over 107 active days (23.2 messages per active day).
"Person with the crush" is whoever uploaded the chat; "the crush" is the other person. Reply time is the gap before a message that answers the other person, counting only replies within 24 hours, averaged per chat. We report medians of the per-chat values, so a few very long chats do not dominate.
Privacy: we use only numbers already computed for each report, never message text, names or words. Every figure covers at least 20 chats, an emoji is listed only if it appears in at least 5 different chats, duplicate uploads and our own test chats are excluded, and the message total is rounded down. See our Privacy Policy and Terms.
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Questions
How fast does a crush usually reply to texts?+
Across 226 anonymised crush chats, the typical (median) average reply time of the crush is 21 min, counting replies sent within 24 hours. The person with the crush replies in 18 min. A slower reply on its own says little: 55% of crushes reply more slowly than the person who likes them.
Is it bad if I text more than my crush?+
It is normal. In 56% of chats the person with the crush sends more messages, and the typical split is 51% to 49%. A big, lasting gap is worth noticing; a small one is not a warning sign.
What time of day do people text their crush the most?+
Messages peak around 10 pm, and 22.4% are sent between 10 pm and 2 am. Thursday is the busiest day of the week (16.8% of messages) and Tuesday the quietest (13.0%).
What are the most used emojis in crush chats?+
The top three are 😭 (41.7%), 😂 (22.9%), 🤣 (8.3%) of the most used emojis. 98% of chats contain at least one emoji.
How long can a crush go without texting?+
Longer than most people think. In the typical crush chat the longest silence is 26 days, and 81% of chats have a gap of a week or more, yet those chats kept going afterwards. The typical longest run of texting every day is 12 days.
Is it normal for texting with a crush to slow down?+
Some slowdown happens, but a real fade is the exception: only 20% of crush chats (running 60+ days) send less than half as many messages in their last month as in their first. The typical chat is 55% busier in its last month than in its first.
What are the chances my crush likes me back?+
In 58 full Crush Analyzer reports, the AI's median estimate that the crush likes the person back was 25%, and it answered "yes" in 29% of cases. 22% of chats scored 75% or higher. This is an AI read of texting patterns made for reflection, not a measure of anyone's feelings.
Where does this data come from?+
From 226 different chats uploaded to Crush Analyzer (1,124,000+ messages). We only use numbers already computed for each report (counts, times, lengths), never message text, names or words. Each figure covers at least 20 chats, emojis are listed only if they appear in at least 5 chats, and duplicate uploads and our own test chats are left out. Our Terms and Privacy Policy describe this use of anonymised data.